This is the phrase I have found myself repeating unconsciously after hearing my 5-year-old daughter say it enough times: "Easy peasy lemon squeezy." It's basically another way of saying, "No big deal."
Things that used to be tough for Zoe that now fall into the “easy peasy lemon squeezy” category:
- Zipping up her coat
- Writing her full name
- Drawing a picture of mommy (one of her masterworks →)
- Getting dressed all by herself
- Scooting down the NYC streets like she owns them (while I hold my breath)
Last week I was staring at a mound of dishes in the sink after a super long day of work, and as I was about to walk away and “get to them later,” I decided to apply Zoe's easy peasy lemon squeezy approach and go for it. Since I was facing off against the Mt. Everest of dirty dishes, I was positive that it was going to take me about 10 hours to wash them. I FELT so strongly about this that I figured it must be true. Of course, just because I felt it didn't mean it was true...
Tara Brach and Pema Chodron (two of my fave Buddhist teachers) discuss the idea that although thoughts themselves are REAL, that doesn’t always mean they are TRUE. The thought in my head was, “Ugh, this is going to take forever!" But, in reality, what appeared to be a 10-hour pile of dishes took me all of 10 MINUTES to wash. That’s it. And I don’t need to remind you that 10 minutes on Facebook can FEEL like 10 seconds. You see where I’m going, right?
And what did I literally say out loud as I walked away from my beautifully clean and empty sink? Yup, you guessed it — “Easy peasy lemon squeezy" — said with a big-ass grin on my face because, really, it’s always my child who humbles me at the end of the day and teaches me the most.
So here’s my challenge to you as you enter into these last few weeks of the holidays and bring 2017 to a close:
- GET CLEAR. Identify your proverbial “dishes." What have you made up a story about in your head that is “too much” or “too hard” or “not going to make a difference” or “not worth the time?" Focus on one task that you have been putting off or avoiding. It can be as simple as making your bed in the morning or, yep, doing the damn dishes. Maybe it's reaching out to a work colleague that you've been meaning to follow up with. Or finally getting to the gym. Or going to that holiday party you aren’t sure about. You get the idea.
- GET PLAYFUL. Conjure up your inner 5-year-old and, even if it feels silly, try telling yourself that the task is “Easy peasy lemon squeezey," — even if you don’t believe it! Remember that the story in your head regarding this task may be Real, but the message may not be True. This could be all you need to do to provide just enough opening to get out of your own way!
- GET INTO ACTION. I dare you to find time between now and January 1st to do AT LEAST one of these tasks that you've been putting off. We call these FROGS in the Path Course, and you can click here to read more about eating frogs and getting a hold of procrastination.
- GET CONNECTED! Don’t keep this accomplishment to yourself! You will be more likely to do more when you see how your actions inspire others to do the things that they've been putting off. Celebrate the small wins and, trust me, you will want to keep going. Take a picture of the task or yourself completing it, and share it with me and the Capes Coaching community on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.
Finally, as we close out 2017, I just want to take a moment to tell you all what a privilege it's been to support this community of absolute rock stars! A big thank you to everyone out there who's allowed Capes Coaching to be a part of their journey this year. And, of course, there's still more to come — here's to getting those goals in 2018!