We’re all accustomed to setting goals. A finish line for where we’re going — an ultimate dream that we keep moving towards. But we don’t necessarily spend enough time talking about what we need to let go of in order to get there.
It’s one of the scariest parts of committing to life as a creative — the letting go. Specifically, letting go of what is no longer serving us as we move toward our goals.
How can you expect to book paid work if you are constantly saying yes to unpaid projects? How can you grow your own business if you’re managing someone else’s business full-time? How can you commit to writing your novel if you’re burned out ghostwriting someone else’s book?
Don’t get me wrong; survival jobs serve a powerful purpose, and by all means keep them going if they are working for you. However, it’s a delicate balance, and it’s your job to stay attuned to when that commitment is no longer serving you, and trust your gut when the time comes to move on. Ultimately, you have to be willing to take the leap in order to commit to the life that you envision.
Which reminds me of this great quote:
If you’ve ever coached with me, you’ve heard me say that acceptance means not wishing for anything to be different — trusting that everything you’ve done up until this moment has set you up for what you’re about to do. So, take a moment to reflect on the commitment that you’ve now outgrown. Let it go with intention, and focus forward. The lighter you travel, the faster you’ll get to where you’re going, after all.
One more suggestion: dress for the job you want. It’s advice that is good both in theory and in actual practice. Physically presenting yourself as the person you want to be — and ensuring that your schedule reflects that — is as much an exercise for getting you in the right mindset as it is is a tool for teaching the world how you want to be seen. Get into action on this by taking a moment to do our Line In The Sand exercise, below.
Line In the Sand Exercise
Take a moment right now to close your eyes and visualize one of your goals. Got it? Write it down.
Identify one thing in your life (or your schedule) that is currently holding you back from achieving this goal. Write it down.
List three ways in which this commitment has served you.
List three ways in which letting go of this commitment will make space for your goal (and not just physical space like actual time, but it could be emotional/mental space as well).
Draw your literal line in the sand by completing the following statement:
6. Commit to one action step you can take this week to draw your line in the sand.
Bonus step - set up accountability by sharing it with us here and letting us know how it goes! Use #capescoaching and #mylineinthesand on instagram so we can see it.